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Feb 14

Feb 14: Question of the Day!

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Good morning loves; happy Valentine's Day! (or Galentine's Day; or the-most-expensive-day-to-buy-flowers, depending on your stance!)

 

In light of it being a love-obsessive day, I thought I'd go along with it and ask you today's question: What do you do to practice self-love?

 

I often post on my own social media about the importance of self-love even if/when you're in a relationship. It is true that you cannot wholeheartedly love somebody else if you don't love yourself first; this is a lesson I've learned time and time again.

 

So while I'm in a good relationship myself right now, something I really like to do for self-care/self-love is to make time for my art. Lately I've been really into making collages in a little notebook I carry around everywhere with me. On the days I don't have time for something that takes this much emotional thought, I'll write a little poetry or prose, or just read my go-to poets. Art is the most important thing I have within myself, so it makes me feel really good when I allow myself the time to practice. I get some good music going, make some tea or hot chocolate, curl up with some blankets and my dogs, and get to art-ing. Sometimes I sketch too! It depends on the day :)

 

Anyway, I should really be doing my readings for school now - class in an hour!

 

Have a lovely day everyone,

Tess

 

 

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