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Sep 11, 2018

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BETTER LATE THAN NEVER (I had actually written this post this morning, but am only just getting around to posting it now, as it's been a very hectic day).

 

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Good morning everyone!

 

Last week I conducted a poll on Chatability’s Facebook Page of which you all would rather see appear as a regular weekly interactive post. Lots of you voted - which is awesome - but overall, as you might’ve guessed, Motivational Mondays won! (Although Wise-Advice Wednesdays did see quite a bit of action as well; those of you that voted for this might be interested to check out my bi-weekly opinion column in the Peterborough Examiner titled Tessa Takes Charge, which is largely geared towards life advice!)

 

My #MotivationalMondays topic for you this morning is that, it’s okay to not be motivational all the time.

 

So often in my own daily life, I find myself constantly taking on and carrying the weight of being a constant source of inspiration to everyone around me. Very, “if I can do it, you can, too!” but this isn't always the case. It’s exhausting to be “on” all the time, and to pressure yourself into believing you are the only one who can make a change for your community (in my case, primarily the disabled community, but also the LGBTQ+ community). There are other people like you who can do the job too, and you’re being unfair to yourself if you convince yourself you have to take on all the responsibility to represent your people.

 

Making change is about a leadership, but that doesn’t mean the leader has to be one person - it can be several people, anyone who feels comfortable raising their voice, fist, crutch, whatever they can, to meet social injustice and conquer it with a challenge to do better.

 

In my case, a constant issue I find I am always fighting for is trying to make people understand that it simply is not enough to just meet the standards of public accessibility, but going past those standards to prove that we should be living in a society that actually wants disabled people present, and to feel comfortable in their skin. The point about going past standards, is to make people with disabilities feel less burdensome (because we aren't burdens), which ties into the infamous disability argument "fix society, not me."

 

Short but sweet, I hope you readers or listeners found this to be helpful, and somewhat inspiring. It has been a very difficult day for myself personally, so writing something about motivation was not an easy task. But I knew that you had all interacted with the poll, and I didn't want to let you down. <3

 

So please! Let me know what you thought of this first week's episode of #Chatability 's #MotivationalMondays ! Leave a like, share your thoughts in the comments, and please pass on to any friends and family you think might benefit from this post.

 

Remember, together we can create an all-inclusive future; we are all leaders in the movement!

 

Sending love,

Tessa May Smith​

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